We are always in the process of approaching truth and perfection without actually ever reaching truth or perfection.

Mark Manson

The true measurement of self-worth is not how a person feels about her/his positive experiences, but rather how she/he feels about her/his negative experiences.

Mark Manson

The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one's negative experience is itself a positive experience.

Mark Manson

We are responsible for experiences that aren't our fault all the time.  This is part of life.

Mark Manson

Incubator

Incubator
Incubator invests energy
gives regulated heat
To the Egg helping to grow
To give life.

When the egg gets just enough
It breaks the egg and gets out
Now it is cook not an egg
Don't know anything about incubator
Don't want to know about it
A real living thing
Which just to relate to similar once.

This is also for human incubators
who expect to be loved back
for their incubation
and end up devastation.

Incubation is not a good way of relation
Not for lasting relationship
For it creates submission
But It is very kind service
For those who needs it.

Incubation is very kind service
Relation is just another skill.

I am a Mom and I never thought I need freedom of speech to raise my kids!

Eden is my oldest daughter. She is 8 and half years old.   So far her knowledge of government is about providing electricity and water.  Eden’s questions stated as usual to know more.

Eden:    Mom, today there was no electricity almost for two hours.  Is there any country without power cut?

Me:        Yes, Eden there are many.

Eden:    It means they have good government.

Me:        Relatively yes.

Eden:    Can we change our government?  How can we change it? (Eden is always proactive on her questions)

I am shocked and kept quit.  Thinking what to say? How to say? Considering consequences I kept quit for long.  (As a child she is going to use my answers as her truth wherever she go whenever she needs it).  

Eden continued with her questions.

Eden:  Mom, have you ever seen change of government in this country?

Me:        Yes Eden.  Once, I was 11 but it happened after severe civil war.

Eden:    That is bad.  You mean is that the Ethio-Italy war? (that is the only war she learnt about so far)

Me:        No this is another was both side Ethiopian and many Ethiopian died both side. 

Eden:    Who fought for this government?

Me:        Many people Eden. 

Thinking how lucky she does not know the previous and this government.

Now, I couldn’t afford to answer any of her questions on this subject.  I gave up my freedom of speech even at home even with my 8 and half years daughter. I gave up mine for hers.  It is better to keep quit myself than telling her not to tell someone else.

I am not a politician.  I am just a mom.  I never thought freedom of speech will be my issue.  I never thought freedom of speech will affect the way I want to raise my kids and their mind development.

I use to think, it is good to explain as much as possible for children’s question for it broaden their mind and perspective.  But this time I don’t have enough freedom of speech to raise my kids the way they deserve.

“We live our dominant thought pattern. “  Iyanla Vazant

“When life appears to be working against you, when the supposedly wrong people show up, or when you slip up and return to old, self-defeating habits, recognize the signs that you’re out of harmony with intention.”    -  Dr. Wayne Dyer

"Nothing is Good or Bad but thinking makes it so. "  Shakespare

“Put distance between you and your critics”

 -       Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that.  Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.” – Martin Luther King Jr.

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.

– Michelangelo

Why Do I Write? 40 Reasons Challenge!

Bryan Hutchinson' challenge has challenged me a lot.  And I accepted the challenge! Well, I never thought in this detail why I write?

1. I write because I feel alive when I write.
2. I write to organize my thoughts.
3. I write because I am very passionate writer.
4. Writing is my best hobby.
5. I write because writing is fun.
6. When I write I feel connected to other who could possible read.
7. I write to share my opinion.
8. I write to express my love.
9. I write to express my feelings.
10. I write to get others understanding.
11. I write to encourage people to be their best.
12. I write to express my opinion about personal behaviors.
13. I write to comment on political situations.  
14. I write my review on books.
15. I write to comment public services.
16. I write my breath of the day and the vibration in it.
17. I love to write the way the stars communicate with me.
18. I write my feelings to be understood.
19. I write my life because it is worth to remember.
20. I write to get inspirations.
21. I write to share my inspirations with others.
22. I write to teach.  I am a great teacher who is life long learner.
23. I write to keep the memory of my children's childhood.
24. I write to vent my hard times.
25. I write to feed my ego.
26. I write because my pen is my best friend.
27.  I write to think clearly.
28.  I write to think deeper.
29.  I write to get more courage to write.
30.  When I write I feel connected to the other world.
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40. I write because I am a writer.

One Step Towards Democracy - I don't need This When I Grow Up

This week Kirubel, my third child who is four years and half, is asking me to buy him many toy cars. Almost everyday, very seriously.  

One morning Kirubel wake up early morning to remind me to buy him the cars today.

Kirubel:  "Mom"

Me:        "Today you should buy my cars."

Thinking in search of a way out (and usually this is how I stop kids questions of 'buy me this', 'buy me that')

Me:  "Kirubel, I am buying you foods, clothes because these are what you need to survive and more I am paying you at good school and stationery. Such luxury things you will buy by yourself when you grow up"

Kirubel:  "Mom! what is wrong with you?"

Me:        shocked with the way he said "What?"

Kirubel:  "I don't need these toys when I grow up because I don't play when I grow up.  

Me:  "Really?"

Kirubel: "Mom, Don't you know grown ups don't play with toy cars? They drive a real car.  When I grow up I will buy a real car.  So, now you have to buy me a toy car now."

Sorry for my daughters, most of the time when they asked me to buy a toy this was my answer.  They were convinced and they don't ask that much. I just buy them with my own convenience.   Their brother managed to challenge my common answer. To be fair, I shouldn't buy him.  But, to be democratic, who believe in discussion at least for this time I am convinced and bought him one.  And I think this is one step or one stone towards democracy and building citizen with true belief on dialog.

      

Why Do You Need All These Kids?

My oldest daughter Eden was three and half years old when I have my third child.  My husband and I thought we have done all the brain washing very well with both our daughters about for them to feel nice about the new comer baby boy.  From the day we came from hospital with their brother they were seriously following up how is he? How much everybody is carrying for him? And more importantly how much he was occupying me?

In his third day with the family Eden came to me to ask me very serious question without forgetting to behave nice with him.

Eden:  "Mom"

Me:     "Yeas Eden"

Eden:  "Why do you need too many children?"

I was shocked to hear this from three and half years old girl.  But I choose to listen to her and see how much is she understanding the situation.

Me:    "Which Children?"

Eden: "You have me; and then you came with Saron, my sister (still behaving nice); and now you have our brother  and then ......."

"Why do you need all of us? I mean Why?"

I just kept quite.  I don't have words to say at all. She was totally overwhelmed and she has expressed herself very well in a very humble way.   Honestly, I was also overwhelmed.  Maybe she have noticed that also.

I told my husband when he came home.  I called my mom and dad and told them.  We laughed a lot. And then as a mom who cares the deepest feeling of her children, the challenge they may face if we keep going for the more kids,  I have noted her comment very well and stayed with the three of them. 

Now, Eden is eight her sister six and her little brother is four and half.  We are taking our time to enjoy life with them and thinking seriously why do we need too many children?

"Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new."
―Albert Einstein

“The memory of God comes to the quiet mind.  It cannot come where there is conflict; for a mind at war against itself remembers no eternal gentleness.”

-          A Course in Miracles

He could see Bonzo's Anger growing hot.  Hot anger was bad. Ender's anger was cold, and he could use it.  Bonzo's was hot, so it used him.  

The Alchemist

"Nothing ever becomes real till it is experienced."  - John Keats

“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.”  Albert Einstein